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Modesty Guidelines for Our Daughter — 12 Comments

  1. We are pretty close to these guidelines. The girls will not wear any shorts or pants, so it’s more length of skirts and dresses that I have to worry about. For Bella, I’m okay with shorter skirts, especially since all of them are either scooters or she wears shorts underneath. With Sophie, since she is getting older we are more wary of hemlines. Thankfully my MIL is really handy with a sewing machine!!

  2. Modesty is definitely a difficult topic but one that needs to be addressed. I work with the students at our church and am often appalled at some of their clothing choices! I definitely think it falls back to the parents and the lessons they’ve taught their daughters – that it’s ok to “show off” your body.

    Great job on teaching your daughter what’s right/wrong in the world of modesty!

    • Thanks! As a young parent, I find it really hard to figure out myself. Everyone wants to talk about heart issues–which is important!–but there still have to be real, concrete guidelines every day as well.

  3. These are VERY similar to ours. I haven’t put the swim short rule into effect yet, but plan on implementing it next year when my girls are older. Love the simple guidelines you have laid out. Sharing 🙂

  4. Oh how I wish I could have had these guidelines growing up! Such a good idea to lead young girls in the way they should go so that when they can make the choice themselves they understand what glorifies God.

    • I think it’s great to get their hearts set when they are young as well, rather than try to “take away” things as they get older. And to show them while they are young and under less peer pressure that dressing “modestly” doesn’t have to be a big deal.

    • I agree. I think this is something that every family has to feel out and determine for themselves in their walk with the Lord. I just encourage folks to think about it early, set some standards. It’s easier to adjust things as you go, then to mess up badly and have to start from scratch. 🙂

  5. Recently, we have been exploring this with a lot of prayer. We have started transitioning to skirt wearing. I am a very tattooed christian mom. I feel like the Lord is really laying it on my heart that wear are girls and we need to look/dress modest but also feminine. The girls and I have had some great discussions on this recently. It was my 10 year old very literal thinker who noted you should know it is a woman/girl based on silhouette in regards to what is considered feminine. I agree with your guidelines. We are not completely there as I said, but we are working our way there. To be honest, I just can’t dump all the clothes and buy all new clothing. Also, I want them to transition. I have to say for swimsuits for our girls when it is all girl company we let them wear tankini’s, but I have have found I love rash guard shirts and board shorts for girls. I am glad that our guidelines are similar to others farther on the path.

    • I think the prayerful part is SO important. We have to follow what God has for OUR family. I agree about the transitioning too. It can be a slow process (especially for those of us in God’s family that were born a little more…um…”strong hearted” then others! {smile}) and our expectations evolved slowly and with a lot of help and guidance from our church family and friends that were also further along. Plus I find we’re challenged constantly by the media, what’s on the store shelves, and what we see others doing. As our kiddos grow, they come up with different questions/perspectives from their friends that we have to address. We went round and round about skinny jeans at one point. Now it’s cutout shirts. Are they ok if you wear a cami-layer? We just have to KEEP PRAYING as we go along. Thanks for commenting!

  6. This is close to the guidlines I grew up with. I honestly think guidlines like this allow a girl/woman to have more self respect.

    One thing my mom told me when I tried to push the line was that by being modest I was keeping a special gift for my future husband if I married.

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