The Next Time You See This It Will Be 2026…

…Those were the school Principle’s words as he announced the Cowboy’s K5 graduating class that week.

I think I stopped breathing for a moment or two.

Could my boy look any more solemn?

Could my boy look any more solemn? When do you ever see him look that serious?

I think K5 graduation was thought up just remind parents that no matter how tough parenting gets, it’s only a brief season and you should enjoy it while it lasts. Here today, college tomorrow. (Or maybe it was thought up because children were leaving preschool and moving into primary school. But that’s so prosaic.)

Their program actually included a recital, singing, and demonstrations from their whole year of learning.

Their program actually included singing, a play, and demonstrations from their whole year of learning.

I have to admit, I have some reservations about giving “pomp and circumstance” to a K5 graduation. These days they start school at 3 and don’t finish until they’re 25. How big is the K5 step, really?

Now that's a look I recognize well!

Now that’s a look I recognize well!

But the class has been practicing their program for weeks. It’s a big deal to them. Which I guess is what matters. Besides maybe this will make their understanding of high school and college graduation all that much deeper and more valuable. Maybe it increases their appreciation for the value of their hard work at school all year.

Be still my heart...we have another graduate in the family.

We have another graduate in the family.

All I know is that 2026 sounded light years away until last Friday.

And this isn’t even our oldest!

And what's graduation without a party?!

And what’s graduation without a party?!

I can’t even fathom what next year will be like–when this one is headed toward graduation…

Speedracer got some love from his K4 teacher while we were there.

Speedracer got some love from his K4 teacher while we were there.

Be still my heart…I can’t take it!

Life moves ever forward.

By the way, what on earth do you do with all these…mementos? What am I supposed to do with the cap and tassel and diploma? Got any creative ideas?

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More Staycation Destinations!

Yesterday I shared a bunch of our favorite local things to do in case you’re in our neck of the woods some time soon. And today, I’m excited to be linking up with The Happy Housewife‘s Staycation campaign to bring you even more fun and inexpensive ideas for staying home and enjoying family time this summer!

Is your town on the list? We’re down there under Southern-Atlantic if you’re from this area…

Year of the Staycation--Frugal Family Ideas in 90+ Cities (www.walkinginhighcotton.net}

Mid Atlantic

NW (or all), Connecticut :: Parenting Miracles
Boston (or all), Massachusetts :: Maven of Savin
Central, New Jersey :: Our Good LIfe
Adirondack Mountains and Central, New York :: For This Season
Buffalo/Niagara Falls, New York :: Ann’s Entitled Life
Syracuse, New York :: I am THAT lady
Erie, Pennsylvania :: Growing Kids Ministry
Greater Harrisburg, Pennsylvania :: Family Balance Sheet
Hershey, Pennsylvania :: Good Deal Mama
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania :: Beyond the Cover
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania :: The Coupon “High”
Poconos, Pennsylvania :: Bucktown Bargains
Scranton, Pennsylvania :: Bucktown Bargains

Midwest

Des Moines, Iowa :: Make the best of everything
Aurora, Illinois :: A Savings WOW!
Central, Illinois :: The Homeschool Scientist
Chicago, Illinois :: Chicagoland Homeschool Network
Naperville, Illinois :: The Sensible Mom
Schaumburg, Illinois :: Ravings By Rae
Fort Wayne, Indiana :: Simplified Saving
Indianapolis, Indiana (Metro Area) :: In Good Cents
Muncie, Indiana (Central IN) :: the daisyhead
Northern Indiana :: So Dough Savvy
Kansas City Area :: Kansas City Mamas
Metro Detroit, Michigan :: Saving Dollars and Sense
Grand Rapids, Michigan :: Give Me Neither
Oakland County, Michigan :: Bargain Shopper Mom
Minneapolis, Minnesota :: Creative Couponing
Rural Minnesota (either Southern our Lake Country) :: Mommysavers.com
St. Cloud, Minnesota :: Frugal Finders
Kansas City, Missouri/Kansas :: Kosher on a Budget
Springfield, Missouri :: Getting Freedom
Cincinnati, Ohio :: Family Friendly Cincinnati
Columbus, Ohio :: Cleverly Simple
Dayton, Ohio :: Savings Lifestyle: Dayton
Mansfield, Ohio :: The Traveling Praters
NE Ohio :: Raising Lifelong Learners
Northeast Ohio (Canton, Akron, Cleveland) :: Sisters Shopping on a Shoestring
Black Hills, South Dakota :: Little House Living
South Dakota :: Moms Mustard Seeds
Oshkosh, Wisconsin :: Adventures of a Stay at Home Mom

Mountain

Phoenix, Arizona :: Mom Endeavors
Scottsdale, Arizona :: Saving For Someday
Tucson, Arizona :: Desert Chica Ramblings
Colorado Springs, Colorado :: The Greenbacks Gal
Denver, Colorado :: Bargain Blessings
Helena, Montana :: The WiC Project
Omaha, Nebraska :: Mom Endeavors
Reno, Nevada – Lake Tahoe (Northern Nevada) :: Saving in Nevada

Pacific

Fresno, California (Central Valley) :: NerdFamily Blog
Los Angeles, California :: Savings.com
San Diego, California :: Good Cheap Eats
San Diego, California :: Life as MOM
Portland, Oregon :: Frugal Living NW
Seattle, Washington :: Thrifty NW Mom

South Atlantic

Arkansas :: Discovering Arkansas
Washington, DC :: Kidventurous
Clearwater Beach, Florida :: Bargain Briana
Jacksonville, Florida :: Saving The Family Money
Southwest Florida (Ft. Myers area) :: Chaos Is Bliss
St. Augustine, Florida :: Simply St. Augustine
Tallahassee, Florida :: SwagGrabber
Atlanta, Georgia (metro area) :: Hodgepodge
Atlanta, Georgia (metro area) :: The Couponing Couple
Annapolis, Maryland :: The Happy Housewife
Hagerstown, Maryland :: Cheryl Pitt
Asheville, North Carolina :: Paradise Praises
Charlotte, North Carolina :: from our front porch lookin’ in…
Raleigh/Southeastern, North Carolina :: Upside Down Homeschooling
Upstate South Carolina :: The Tween & Me
Charlottesville, Virginia :: How to Have it All
Richmond, Virginia :: Teachers of Good Things
Smithfield, Virginia :: Walking in High Cotton
Virginia Beach, Virginia :: The Coupon Challenge

South Central

Coastal Alabama :: Meet Penny
Huntsville, Alabama :: The Traveling Praters
Northern Kentucky :: Simply Sherryl
Chattanooga, Tennessee :: Living Chic on the Cheap
East Tennessee (Smoky Mountains, Knoxville) :: Finding Joy on the Journey
Nashville, Tennessee :: Montessori Tidbits
Arlington, Texas :: Grocery Shop For FREE
Austin, Texas (Hill Country) :: Ponder the Path
College Station, Texas :: How to Homeschool My Child
Dallas, Texas :: Surviving The Stores
East Dallas, Texas :: Funky Faith Girl
Fort Worth, Texas :: Coupons & Freebies Mom
Houston, Texas :: MomsToolbox
Houston, Texas :: MyLitter
Katy, Texas :: Moms Confession
McAllen, Texas (Rio Grande Valley) :: iLoveMy5Kids
San Antonio, Texas :: Melissa’s Bargains

Will you be staying home this summer, or heading out on vacation? Or both?

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Staycation — Enjoying Smithfield and Western Tidewater Virginia

Year of the Staycation--Frugal Family Ideas in 90+ Cities (www.walkinginhighcotton.net}Any times we say we’re from Smithfield, folks immediately ask, “You mean, like the ham?”

Yes. Exactly.

Smithfield, Virginia is the original home (and still headquarters) of Smithfield Foods. “Hams, History, Hospitality, and HeART” as we like to say around here.

Here’s some of our favorite, pretty much free, ways to spend a nice weekend around here…

Here's a picture of the boys with Mr. Fix-It and Papa while spending an afternoon on Main Street last fall.

Here’s a picture of the boys, Mr. Fix-It, and Papa spending an afternoon on Main Street last fall.

Smithfield Farmer’s Market…it’s growing every year and is quite the local hot spot on Saturday mornings. It includes everything from fresh veggies, to soap, to cut flowers, to bakery treats. Admission is free, of course, so you can just window shop (and gossip! {smile})  if you’d like, but you won’t be able to resist the ham biscuits from Darden’s Country Store, I’m tellin’ ya. (They’re our neighbors as well, and sometimes I make Mr. Fix-It take me to the Market just to get some fresh!)

Windsor Castle Park…a little fresh air and blue water right here. The Park is a recent, but well-loved, addition to the Town. Admission is free and there’s trails the whole family will enjoy, along with a dog park, canoe launch, fishing pier, and picnic areas. It’s a perfect place to enjoy some of our wetland wildlife and birds, including osprey, cranes, and herons. (And keep your eyes peeled for bald eagles!!)

Then be sure to walk across and enjoy some ice cream or a too-beautiful-to-eat cupcake at Jeff’s Sir-Cakes-A-Lot bakery on the Smithfield Station Boardwalk!

I told you we love pigs and art around here! {smile} Here's a new mural on a downtown building.

I told you we love pigs and art around here! {smile} Here’s a new mural on a downtown building.

Be sure to stop by the Visitor’s Center and browse the local art center and studios. And be sure to download a free copy of the Children’s Coloring Book with history facts and a scavenger hunt all about the Town in it. (Tours can be easily arranged if you have a group in the area as well!) And be sure to pick up a free copy of the “Porcine Parade” map and enjoy our life-sized painted pigs! (Ask the Visitor’s Center about a special treat for munchkins that identify all the piggies!)

And while you’re right downtown, you can grab a drink and a huge homemade muffin at the Smithfield Bakery (there’s actually a Virginia Bicycling Route named “the Smithfield Bakery Run” because it’s so yummy!)–which is Mr. Fix-It’s favorite local place for lunch. Not a “bargain” price for lunch, but you get good food and large helpings–and the place is always buzzing!

The kiddos were enjoying a little history on the Old Courthouse Green.

The kiddos were enjoying a little history on the old Courthouse lawn.

If you’re looking for a little shopping time, we’ve got quaint or we’ve got commercial. (Hop over to the Visitor’s Center website to see more info on our local shops.) When we’re downtown I love to stop in Wharf Hill Antiques and Laura and Lucy’s, but if you’re coming from out-of-town, you might want to double-check the store hours. Not all our shops are 7 days a week.

But the best thing about Smithfield is that there’s always something going on!

Our local Lions sponsor a “Classic Cruz-In” car show the 1st, 3rd, and 5th Friday every month from 6:00 to 9:00 pm, starting in April. This is a big event, completely free and family friendly! (I hope to have pictures from us visiting later this month!)

The Town hosts weekly free Friday Night Concerts series at the open Gazebo on the Green right in the middle of Town over the summer.

And we have Smithfield Olden Days Festival every June (this year it’s June 28-29, 2013), including concerts, car shows, river raft races, craft and food vendors, a kids and pets parade, and more all day fun. Oh, and it’s free, free, free. (Ok, a few specific activities have a small fee. But you can just come enjoy the day for nada if you want to–we do!)

And here's the crew enjoying a visit with Benjamin Franklin at the Gazebo on the Green in front of our local newspaper office.

And then they stopped to visit Benjamin Franklin at the Gazebo on the Green in front of our local newspaper office.

While you’re around, be sure to stop by the County Museum (it’s free) and look around at 400+ years of history. Isle of Wight County was originally settled around 1619 (we’re just a free ferry ride away from Jamestown!) and we’ve got every kind of American history right here in the County. From early settlement, to Civil War, to the Cold War, there’s a bit of it right here, and most of our historic properties are owned and managed by the County with free admission for visitors.

Fort Boykin

Fort Huger

Boykin’s Tavern

Nike Park/Nike Ajax Missile Site

And a few other historic sites worth visiting with your family–but I’m not sure if they are free, or a nominal cost.

The Old Schoolhouse Museum (The website alone is awesome–you should check out some of that oral history whether you come to visit or not!)
Historic St. Luke’s Church (Heritage Day is coming up June 8, 2013, with free activities for the whole family!)

And here's the Cowboy doing time for...something. {smile}

And here’s the Cowboy doing time for…something. {smile}

If you’re in Tidewater, you really should come out one Saturday and visit. There’s more than just an afternoon of fun here. And if you’re visiting Virginia Beach, Williamsburg, or other local attractions, don’t forget we’re here! {And if you’re coming this way–don’t forget to come by and visit us at The Lowe Farm!! Just drop us an email so someone ca be sure to be here!}

And be sure to come by tomorrow, where we’ll be linking up with The Happy Housewife’s Year of the Staycation campaign to bring you ideas for frugal family fun in 90+ more locations! (Maybe your town will be on the list!)

 

See where I’m sharing this week…

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A Few Words About Wisdom, Our Peers, and Our Church Family

Yesterday I sat in on a Facebook chat with Melanie Young, co-author of Raising Real Men (which I absolutely devoured last year!) about, well, raising real men. {smile}

I also recently read a stunningly simple blog post by Ashleigh Baker that was a beautiful summary of my own mish-mash thoughts after the 2:1 Conference.

And this is what comes to my mind…

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We all need to be careful, readers and writers alike, what authority we speak with and recognize in our lives, and understand the difference between the stories of our peers and authentic wisdom. As everything else, it requires balance–which I find is only achieved by prayer with an open mind and heart–and which is often proved out in my own life by the bitter fruit produced by chasing after the exact opposite! {smile}

Having a community of supportive peers, women walking by my side through motherhood and marriage, lifting me up and urging me on, has been one of the greatest blessings for me from blogging and social media! But I also find that the Lord has been working on my heart about being more discerning in this area. Urging me to realize that my peers may share their story, but not necessarily wisdom as He would have me seek. That there is a perspective that is only gain through trial and experience, that truly is determined by longevity.

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My peers, my beloved friends, are walking this road with me. But sometimes we need to find the women who are walking ahead of us!

I’ve been married for 11 years (12 this December!) and a mother for 9 years this summer.  And sometimes it seems I look around and we’ve been married and parenting longer than everyone in our age group. There’s a blank spot in our circle representing 15-20 year marriages and most of our acquaintances that are that 5-10 years further down the road parenting-wise, do not have an equally mature marriage.

Sometimes I need to be seeking out women that have been married 20 years, 30 years…have children in high school, or college, or are experienced grandmas who have seen their children through adulthood. Ladies who have proven, through the example of their solid marriage or their faithful adult children, that they already know how to walk the path I desire to take.

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I think there’s a couple challenges here.

One is a generation gap related to using technology. Let’s be honest, most grandma’s are not blogging.

A second is replacing our real life church family with a virtual community. The more I reach out to the godly women in our church family, the more they fill that empty spot with their experience and wisdom. And encouragement–oh how sweet is the encouragement from someone who’s been married 35 years and raised 3 beautiful, God-fearing children and says “Sweetheart, you’re doing just fine!”

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Since the Titus 2:1 Conference, I have felt the Lord calling me to greater humility. There is a difference between sharing stories, sharing information, and sharing wisdom. In this space, here at Walking in High Cotton, I share stories. I share experiences. I share ideas. And each reader has to use their own discernment as to whether it speaks wisdom into your life.

But I also feel like the Lord is speaking to me about seeking…seeking out more mature fellowships. Seeking out relationships–not to replace!–but to balance the good friendships I’ve made within my peer group since I’ve been blogging. Cultivating relationships and discovering godly resources that mentor to me where I am in this life.

I’m not sure if that means through more blogging, or less, or not.

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But I do know that a seeking heart will be rewarded with wisdom and knowledge.

Do you find the on-line environment to be more heavily weighed toward youth and inexperience rather than experience and godly wisdom?  Do you ever find yourself suddenly questioning someone’s authority/confidence on certain topics after you read their About page?

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Everything Frugal {LINK UP}…The Ultimate Frugal Link Up

Everything Frugal {LINK UP} @ Walking in High CottonToday (and for the next two weeks!) I’ll be co-hosting the Mom Tested Family Approved Everything Frugal {LINK UP} to share great posts about wise spending and home management.

This is a topic that a lot of bloggers cover in much greater detail than I ever do here at Walking in High Cotton. Honestly, we’re under a constant time budget around here that lowers my return on investment for a lot of the strategies out there. But we do live on a budget–which we do often need to re-evaulate and update! {smile}–and I’ve discovered that saving time and saving money are not mutually exclusive, and from time to time I love to share how I’ve distilled a simplified version of common saving strategies that do both for us and might help you too.

Our grocery budget and meal planning was one of the first real budgeting areas I tackled in our household. It’s one of the few areas in our budget that is completely discretionary and also the one hardest hit when my time management slips! It’s also an area that is just saturated with “experts.” Well, I’m no expert, I’m just one busy momma trying to do the best she can. But here’s a few posts about what works for us, time and money-wise…

On a quick side note (that will probably be its own post soon!) lots of folks think that homesteading and raising your own food is a naturally frugal way to do things. While I do believe that it can be, there’s a lot more detail involved than just “I can cross eggs, meat, and lettuce off my grocery list and that saves us XX dollars.” If you’re completely new to homesteading–especially with livestock!–please don’t assume that it’s going to have an immediate costs savings. It likely won’t. The capital outlay costs and learning curve costs can be enormous! There’s lots of great reasons to homestead–but being frugal should be very, very far down on your list. Here’s a few great posts from Quinn at Reformation Acres about the dollars and cents on their little homestead.

Looking for more great money-savvy, frugal  tips, tricks, and helps? (Or do you have some great tips to share?!) Please join us for the Mom Tested, Family Approved Everything Frugal {LINK UP}!

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Please:

  • LINK UP up to 3 frugal home management-related posts of your own over the next 2 weeks!
  • Visit as many posts as you’d like!
  • Stop by to visit my co-sponsors if you have a chance–Dollie from Teachers of Good Things; Becky Marie from For This Season; Vicki from Vicki Arnold; and Jessi from This Camera Tells My Story!
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  • Share all the great links with your friends on Facebook and Twitter!
  • Use what you find to be wise stewards of your family’s resources!

Next month’s Mom Tested, Family Approved Home {LINK UP} will be Everything Summer, starting May 28th. Do you have vacation tips? Travel ideas? Sunburn remedies or summer reading lists? Be sure to come by and check it out!

And don’t forget to visit our Featured Bloggers from last week’s Everything Gardening {LINK UP}…

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