Modesty is for Boys Too — 6 Comments

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  2. Wonderful!!! We have the same standards for our son (7), that we do for our daughters. It is all about respect. For themselves, towards God, and for others!
    We really try and steer away from pictures/words on shirts. Most of them are rude or gross. But boys are SO much easier. Khaki pants and a polo shirt will never go out of style!!

  3. I love this! We make our son (and Daddy) wear a shirt to go swimming. Also sort of off topic, but we sensor other things on clothes too. We get hand-me-downs and always weed out skull/cross bones, sarcastic quotes, and most character shirts. I think this is great! I also teach my son, when he forgets to close his door while changing (he’s 6), that his body is to only be seen by 1.) Someone helping him shower/bathe, 2.) Doctors sometimes, and 3.) His wife when he gets married.

    • You’re right, we review images and slogans too. We don’t do skull and crossbones or skeletons, we’re careful about pirate stuff, and we don’t do any TV shows/movies that we don’t let the watch in real life. We don’t do words that are rude, sassy, put down family or girls, or anything inappropriate. Same for our daughter.

    • But do you make your daughter wear a shirt while swimming? Why has it become more acceptable for girls to show more skin than for boys to do so these days, especially when girls are developing sexually earlier these days? If there has been a double standard, of late, it has been consistently against the boys, who are shamed if they wear a speedo, while bikinis become the norm.
      A guy having is shirt off has never been seen as obscene for the simple reason that females and males are anatomically different. Should we now consider the depictions of Christ on the cross obscene? This is the logic of your own assumption that males now need to cover up, even though it is actually females who are being told to do so less and less now.

      • We do make our daughter wear a swim-shirt too, and we don’t allow bikinis. I talked about our specific expectations for our daughter in my previous post. I don’t really agree with the term “obscene” in this context. I think it’s too strongly negative. As I mentioned in my previous post, we believe that modesty is not about being ashamed of our bodies–our bodies are not “obscene.” It’s simply about not intentionally calling attention to our body and physical shape with our clothing choices. My personal experience is that while the anatomy may be different, very, very men take their shirts off in public if they are not trying to show off physically, outside of a swimsuit.

        But I think it is important to note that taking Christ’s clothes away was part of his shaming on the cross. It was part of shaming all criminals that were crucified.