Thoughts on Halloween…We DID and now we DON’T — 12 Comments

  1. I’m just now finding this post, so I hope you will see my comment. I completely agree with everything you said about Halloween. We have not celebrated in several years now.
    Just out of curiosity, why do you not celebrate Hanukkah? My husband and I go to a Messianic Jewish congregation, so we follow the Jewish feasts. I’ve always felt a little bit iffy about Hanukkah, though, because it’s not an actual biblical feast.

    • I see Hanukkah as more of a historical holiday than a spiritual holiday and since we’re not Jewish, it doesn’t have much historical context for us. I also think it’s a very fine line when celebrating Old Testament feasts not to dip into legalism and “claim the Bible” (if you will) while failing to provide an appropriate witness for Christ’s salvation and redemption. I don’t think it opposes our Christian beliefs like Halloween often does, but I also think it’s a very difficult line to walk to put it in context for non-Believers, and we’re fine without it. I also think there is a cultural misunderstanding of Hanukkah as the “Jewish version of Christmas” which is definitely NOT something we want to perpetuate.

    • Thank you for reading. I think it’s so important to show people that walking with the Lord is a journey and a process and there’s nothing wrong with taking your time to figure some things out–as long as that’s what your doing! 🙂

  2. Thanks so much for this post! I like that you take us through your growth as a Christian and a mother. We are on the same page it seems as we have been bewildered about Halloween and what people think they are celebrating for years now. Candy? Costumes? Even if you did just want to dress your adorable child and see other adorable children come to your front door it doesn’t make any sense to buy children a new costume/props every year ($25?) and buy $75 worth of candy to pass out at the front door. We have 8 children so we definitely consider our budget.

    Thanks for the tip about holidays that we don’t celebrate – that one will make sense to kids who want to participate but can understand that we don’t celebrate Canadian Thanksgiving either ( ;
    When we lived in S Korea there were so many holidays we weren’t aware of and didn’t understand the significance of and didn’t feel responsible for celebrating. Your example reminds me of that also.

    • I think its so important for people to see that walking with the Lord is a journey, an evolution…you don’t just rise up out of the water knowing everything God wants you to know and doing everything the way God wants you to do it. And it’s never too early or too late to change your response to something. Between our church family and the farm we’ve been exposed to so many counter-cultural and non-American views and experiences (right here in our little hometown!) that sometimes it takes a little time to process it all and distill it down into something meaningful to us. But it’s always worthwhile to know where you stand and why you stand there!

  3. Yes, becoming parents completed changed my mind about Halloween! I doubt I missed a single year of trick-or-treating when I was growing up. When our first was born, we did a lot of praying and researching and realized that Halloween is something that we, as Christians, should have nothing to do with. I’m going to be posting about it on my blog next week 🙂 Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You are definitely not alone in this!


    • I love the traditions and memories I have of growing up, but I find that I often choose a different path as a parent on cultural issues. We’re thankful to have a steady and fairly controllable environment to raise our munchkins in as well. We’re able to manage their influences much more than my parents were or other parents are, since we live in a small town and they go to a private school. It’s a blessing.

  4. We don’t celebrate Halloween but have always tried not to freak out about others doing so-at least to them, since I know a lot of it just means dressing up and having fun.

    The reason why I get a little bit edgy about it is because it is very real to me-as a Christian who use to be a former witch and also was into astrology, there really is a dark side to it. For me, it can never be innocent. What really sealed the deal for me was a mom’s blog whose adopted child came out of a pagan cult who really did practice sacrifice and she had to deal with PTSD issues every Halloween. (Most pagan cults do NOT practice that- but it still does happen in remote parts of our woods and country on Halloween. -for real.

    • Yes, I think we act very naive about some things in our culture. We throw things like “luck” “karma” and zodiac signs around casually because they don’t mean much to us without thinking that they DO mean something to someone. I think it’s important to teach our kids how to address things carefully but clearly. I don’t want them being harsh and judgmental and publicly denouncing everyone that does things differently–but I also DO want them to have the words to express that they don’t agree with that and open a conversation about it. We do believe in good and evil, and we do believe in God and the Devil, and we do believe in absolute truth and the Bible. But we need to make sure we’re training them to express that in love and truth.

      And quite frankly, formulating appropriate responses for them helps me think all the way through my own views on the subject. Children are a refining fire! {smile}

  5. Amen! We don’t participate in Halloween either. I’ve “compromised” a couple of times during the years and participated in a Harvest festival. I say compromise bc I felt like it was just calling the “celebration” by a different name. Another friend recently posted why her family didn’t participate either. I was shocked at the number of Christians who were such adamant supporters of the day. It made me wonder why the day brought out such strong feelings. But that is another tangent.

    I especially loved this statement: “We don’t participate in Halloween because sometimes a man’s witness is stronger for what he doesn’t do, than what he does.” Great truth!

    • Thanks for reading! I think it’s important for people to realize that Christians have to feel their way through things too–we don’t just get saved and automatically know exactly what we’re suppose to do in every situation. For me it’s been an evolution, not a magic turning point.

      I also think that people think it’s going to be a bigger deal than it is. Our kids have never come home and said, “Man, I wish we could do Halloween like everyone else!” We have other things in our lives right now and we don’t even really give Halloween much thought now that we’re comfortable with where we stand and we’re all on the same page.